Let me tell yall, nothing grinds my gears more than when someone asks me if my hair is real or here’s the kicker “Is that the natural texture of your hair”? What does that even mean? What’s even worse is that these are the types of questions black women ask me. I rarely have a white woman or man question me about the texture of my hair. After I confirm that this is indeed my hair and my natural hair texture (whatever the hell that means) they say “oooooo girl, you got some good hair”. At this point I am more lost than I was when the conversation began. Growing up I wasn’t raised to put emphasizes on what is good or bad hair. I didn’t learn that until I began to interact with other females in society. We already know that there is this stigma that if you are a black woman you have thick, extra kinky hair and that you are bald headed, but did you know that the main people promoting that stigma are black women? What if I told you that not all black girls have extra thick, nappy, short hair? SHOCKER (In my most sarcastic voice ever). I haven’t had a perm in over a year, my natural hair is soft and curly does that mean that my hair is better than another black woman who has thick, coarse hair? HELL NO! When you say, something is good versus bad you are now putting more value that one thing is better than the other and that is disrespectful not only as a woman but as a black woman. I don’t think that my hair is better than the next black woman’s hair just because it may have a slightly different texture. Hair is hair. ALL black women have good hair if you ask me. We are the most diverse group of women. We can give you Beyoncé one day and Erykah Badu the next, you name a group of women that can do that? I’ll wait… Black women are magical. We come in various shades and textures so no matter if you have 4A, 4B, or 4C hair it is BEAUTIFUL!