I’ll be the one to admit that life has given me a lot of BS…a lot of it! As 20 year old women, life can it us in all kinds of directions. Literally, I feel like I’m getting jumped by bills, low self-esteem, and work all the time. Throughout the years, I’ve learned how to balance my life. I even learn how to bounce back or do a quick turn around when I feel like I am getting sunk in to the phase again. So, I wanted to come to you with 19 tips that hopefully can help you in some aspects of your life. Oh yeah, grab a snack because this is gonna be long!
Define yourself. This is what my whole blog goal is, to help define yourself. You have the right to define who you are. Don’t let your parents, your friends, your spouse, the media, or anybody else define who you are.
Express yo’self. Expressing yourself lifts a lot of weight off of your shoulders. Don’t be fake because people do not agree or understand with the things you do or like. Of course if it’s something very very strange like self harm or harming others then that’s another challenge – you need help sis and we do not want you going through this. But if you live a lifestyle that is frowned upon, who cares! This is not their life, it is yours.
It’s okay to make mistakes. Just don’t make them again!I used to have bad habits which led to worse mistakes. You live and you learn. Don’t beat yourself up about it or make yourself into a failure.
Keep growing. Not your body but you know, yourself! Always keep advancing and never settle. Continue your education, work towards bigger promotions even if you don’t believe you have that opportunity, and always make changes.
Never. Give. Up! If I could help all women succeed, I would do it in a heartbeat! I use to give up all the time. As I read lifestyle books, this is often talked about. So I pushed myself anyway I could and in every aspect of my life. Whatever you do, just do not give up. When you get to your goal you are going to thank yourself for not giving up on YOU. Set up goals and knock them out the water.
Get rid of toxic relations. This one is always hard for me. Once I build any relationship with someone, I don’t really like to let go. But sometimes in order to improve your life, you have to get rid of those who hold you back. If there is anyone who puts you down, doesn’t believe in you, let you struggle and not help, or anything the negatively impacts you – cut them off and feel no sympathy.
Get rid of toxic habits. This sort of can tie with toxic people and relations. We often develop habits from who we hang around. But most of us usually have a bad habit that makes life a little harder in the long run. If you have a problem with starting drama, maybe you have issues elsewhere that you are pushing off. If you are a hater, stop hating – build your self esteem and let people live in peace sis.
Find a hobby. When I was younger, I used to sit around and worry about my grades. Now that I am in college, I didn’t want to stress too much about my school. My main hobby now is blogging – I’ve been blogging on and off now for about 3 years. Just find something that interest you to dig deeper into. Don’t even worry if your hobby is common or not.
Start saving immediately. Finances is sadly the worst part of adulting. It makes me cringe whenever I have to do anything with my finances. However, it has to get done. Finances is such a large topic that I will make a thorough series for all my newly adults so you can get up on the right foot. But just for starters, even if you only save 10% or $10 every paycheck- please just save something. You will thank yourself in the future.
Spend time with your family. I wish that I had spent more time with my family. I was just so eager to get out. I’m not saying that you have to be under them all the time – but don’t just forget that you have a family. Family can bring support and give you a really good time – lowering your stress. Family is the ones that love you the most.
Keep an open mind. Please do not be closed minded in this time of your life. This is a time where we are all growing and the world is testing us. Explore more, try new things, listen to what others have to save, learn from others mistakes. Just do not stay in a little bubble. It’s okay to have a comfort zone, just step out of it a little.
Learn Patience. Heard of the phrase “patience is a virtue”? This little sentence right here will help you a ton as you are growing. I don’t know about you but I used to be (still kind of am) very impatient. I never achieved goals or grew because I wanted something right then and there and if It didn’t happen I would just quit all together. If I just learned patience a long time ago, I’m sure I would be much farther ahead in life than I am now. I will make a whole blog post to guide you through this very issue.
Make a budget. Unless you grew up with a silver spoon in your mouth, you need to set a budget. Everyone income, needs, and wants are different. It is important to know there is no one template fits all for budgets. Even as you get older and things pop up, you will be changing this budget all the time. I’ve looked on Pinterest, read books, and watched plenty of YouTube videos just to create my budget that fits me the best. A FREE workbook will be coming out soon for all of my rosies.
Work on building your credit. This is a whole entire series in itself! Credit is so important in adulthood and most of our older family members aren’t even sure what to do when it comes to credit. This comes in handy when you need a new car, finding a nice apartment, getting loans, and more. I know too well about how to repair credit after I have damaged mine. So, be on the look out for that series! And yes, you can build good credit on a low income in college or fresh out.
Learn to say NO. I’m sure all of us want to be good people to the world – but sometimes you just gotta say no for your sanity. Your sanity is very important at this stage in life. Don’t over do yourself trying to pick up someone else slack. You don’t have to be a total douche but just limit how often you go out of your way for people.
Let relationships grow. This goes for anything; friends, co-workers, boyfriend/girlfriend, etc. You have to learn that person and gain trust between each other. People now-a-days just throw titles everywhere when they barely know the person. Cherish your time and don’t waste it on people that are only in your life for a season. If you to are meant to be long term friends, it will happen organically.
Read more. If you hate reading, at least try to listen to audio books. Reading gives you so much knowledge and is even somewhat of a confidence booster. Just knowing something new inspires you to do more. Lifestyle books in general are packed with information you don’t even know about. There are resources, tips, tricks, and more that goes beyond what you just search on the internet. Remember, the internet is kind of filled with lazy individuals so you are only getting like half the knowledge.
Get a planner. Planning will change your life! I bet a lot of people think they can just retain all of the information in their head or have things written down on random pieces of paper. You need structure and a place where you can find everything you need. You do not need fancy journals or anything. Just get something simple and make sure you have color codes as well. I will be starting a series for this as well that goes in depth about planning that I am sure you all will love.
Travel more. Traveling every once in awhile is so good for your mental health. Doing the same thing all the time can kind of make you go a little insane. Travel doesn’t have to be very expensive either. Just make sure you give yourself a vacation…adulting is hard.
Take these small tips and practice them little by little. Just because adulting is hard doesn’t mean you have to deal with it! Let us know some of your favorite practices that helps life become a little bit easier. Don’t forget to follow me on my social medias and email list so you can stay up to date.
See you later rosies,
A message from Brittney....
Hey to all the beautiful ambitious queens out there! I'm Brittney and I am so glad that Danielle has me here to this Wednesday. Over at She's Rosie, I spill all the tea about young adulthood for my lady roses. Go ahead and grab your tea or your coffee or your "wine" aka cranberry juice in a stemless wine glass, and sit down and stay awhile. Don't worry sis cause I'm spilling some tea right here, right now for you today. If you would like to read more of the juicy talks, motivation, life hacks, and more - head over to my blog (www.shesrosie.com).