Who the fuck wants to be alone? I bet you say no one, right? What if I told you that there is beauty in loneliness? You’d probably think I am bat shit crazy. I have watched so many people throw themselves into various situations just, so they can avoid being alone. Honestly, loneliness makes people a little desperate because as humans we are always wanting more. I recently learned to embrace loneliness and cherish the moments of my life when there is just me.
Although we were not designed to be alone, at least I don’t think so, we must find the beauty in it. A year ago, I was felt super lonely, so I began to search for things and people to fill up my time, so I wouldn’t feel alone. Guess what happened? I surrounded myself around things and people, so I wouldn’t feel alone and then I still felt alone. I realized that the idea of loneliness is given a negative meaning based of societies definition, but I now understand that the feeling of loneliness is not a negative thing most of the time, but it is a positive thing. Am I losing you? Let me explain.
When we view loneliness as a negative thing we begin to ATTRACT all of the negative aspects of it. They say that lonely people are miserable, desperate, sad, and unhappy and because of this we begin to feel that way whenever we are alone. I know many people who cannot stand to be alone, I mean the moment they are alone they feel as if the world is ending and that no one cares about them which leads them to become miserable and in constant suffering. I always say the best company is my own, I need time to reflect on my thoughts because I know that only I can make myself happy. Being alone is beautiful simply because you have the freedom to explore you and only you, whereas if you were surrounded constantly around people you have to not only be aware of yourself but be aware of the other person at the same time, which can prove to be difficult for most. I take in the moments when I feel lonely because I realize that this moment is the most important moment of my day. Sure, there are times when I need human interaction, but it became a problem when I realized I was too reliant on human interaction. If no one talked to me all day I became unhappy and sad. I am not saying that you need to isolate yourself from the world around you, I am saying do not force shit because you are alone. Be open to being alone knowing that these are sacred times where you can replenish and build on the parts of yourself that need it the most.