Happy Thanksgiving! I know most of you all are either cooking or getting ready to eat! This post wasn’t planned but I woke up this morning and this was heavy on my heart, so I decided to get it out. While many people are excited about the holidays, there are people who have a hard time during this festive season. The holidays are about spending time with the people you love but there are people who aren’t able to do that and that can have a negative impact on one's mental health. Feeling alone is already difficult, but when there are tons of commercials and ads that promote spending time with family and friends it can make it even harder than usual. To all my people who won’t be able to spend time with their loved ones due to work, conflict, or any other circumstance I wanted to give you three of my personal tips that help me deal with the loneliness the holidays can bring.
Tip One: Gratitude! This one is difficult for me because I am usually so caught up in my own feelings I fail to appreciate the good things in my life. Even if my life feels like it is completely crashing down, I always remember that I have so much to be thankful for despite how I am feeling right now. Find at least three things to be grateful for every day and write them down, I know it seems cheesy but TRUST ME it works!
Tip Two: Volunteer! One of the best feelings during the holidays is giving back. Whenever I have one of my depression episodes, I often think about the homeless man or woman on the street and I remember that I am truly blessed because I have a place to go when I am sad and millions of people in this country do not. Search on the internet for local volunteer shelters and give back.
Tip Three: Try to keep busy! I personally hate using distraction as a way to deal with my problems, however during the holiday season it is very effective. The holiday season lasts about three months and then it is back to regular programming. Take advantage of this time by picking up more shifts at work or by finding a new hobby. Whatever it is, don’t allow yourself to have to have too much free time during this season, stay busy and the holidays will be over before you know it.
The holidays are usually one of the hardest times of the year for me, so I wanted to encourage you all out there! Don’t let the heavy marketing of the holidays make you feel bad about yourself or your life. You are amazing and loved ALL YEAR ROUND! I am sending love and light to anyone reading this. Stay positive and most of all stay blessed!